Goodbye Why.

“When life puts you in tough situations, don’t say “why me?” say “try me.””


How many of us would agree that we have at least once, maybe twice, perhaps hundreds of times asked “Why me?” when reflecting upon our epilepsy diagnosis? I know that I have. Starting out in the very beginning of my journey, countless times, I recall praying on my knees to God asking him “Why?” Conversations with my loving husband with tears streaming down my face as he held me close, asking him “Why me?” Times alone in complete confusion and utter brokenness wishing for an answer to “Why this condition would be placed upon me? What had I done so wrong to deserve this?”

Every fiber of my being longed to know “why”, yet the journey I was on was not quite the correct path I was meant to be on. I began to notice that “why” was essentially equivalent to spinning your wheels in the mud. Getting me nowhere and fast. Just digging me in deeper. Deeper into the mud of my pain and heartache that I was feeling. I soon realized that I had to part ways with “why” for a time if I was going to make gain on getting any better.

What Does Holding Onto “Why Me?” Do?

  • Builds depression/sadness
  • Increases heartache
  • Postpone positive emotional, spiritual growth
  • Can breed thoughts of regret
  • Can breed thoughts of guilt
  • Can affect family and friends unintentionally

What Does Releasing “Why Me?” Do?

  • Restores happiness/joy
  • Decrease pain and heartache
  • Creates emotional and spiritual growth
  • Clears away any negative thoughts such as regret and/or guilt
  • Family and friends take notice of a pleasant positive change.

When I stopped asking “Why” and “Why me” in reference to my epilepsy diagnosis, wow did that make an incredible difference within my life. It began to pave a way forward and paint a beautiful sky brilliantly. It was as if I had awoken from a sleep. My eyes had become opened. I instantly gravitated towards new, more supportive, loving friends and family, new connections, new doors began to open themselves up, these blessings were so grand and so wonderful and best yet, so easy!

Sending “Why me” packing, I soon invited a new set of words into my life: “Try me” to take its place. I was not going to allow epilepsy to take control of my life. Not now, not ever.

With faith and hope illuminating within, I began to chart a course for my journey and I knew exactly what I needed and wanted to do. Learn all that I could about the condition that was placed upon me and each and every person in the world too, educate and advocate loudly and proudly until my very last breath.

How about you? Are you ready to send “Why/Why me?” packing?

What does holding onto “Why/Why me?” do to you? What would releasing  “Why/Why me?” do for you? Share your thoughts in the comments section!


I am a happily-ever-after wife, an Epilepsy Diagnosee, Advocate for Epilepsy Awareness (The Epilepsy Network), life lover & Christ inspired! Life is a journey and I'm loving every moment of it. Even the bumps in the road!

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