Along Came Epilepsy – We’re In This Together

“I love you more today than yesterday and I’ll love you more tomorrow than today.” — Unknown

It was love at first sight! When my husband Chris and I had met, I had not yet been officially diagnosed with epilepsy. I had only had the one single seizure at age 16. We were two young twenty something’s in-love. We knew straight away we wanted to be together for the rest of our lives. After a short period of time, we came to our parents and told them of our plans in wanting to get married, and in having their blessing, we began our preparation of our big wedding day.

AUGUST 16, 2008

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It was the greatest day of my life. Of both of our lives. I wasn’t thinking about my seizure when I was 16. I wasn’t fearful of what my new husband, my love of my life might think about me. I knew what he thought about me. I knew exactly what he thought about me. He loved me. He looked BEYOND the seizure at  the age of 16. The vows that he spoke at the church, I saw in his eyes that he meant every single word.

As we set sail onward to begin our new lives together, of course, idea clouds often sprouted like spring dandelions. What newlywed couple or spouse doesn’t have ideas or dreams when getting started in your new lives? We often talked about having children, going on our Honeymoon, where we might want to live, starting a flower garden, a vegetable garden, holiday parties with family and friends, an assortment of topics you could imagine.

Our very first home, was a beautiful place to begin. A wonderful townhome considerably close to all of our family. Both Chris and I had our cars to take us to our jobs, though I was always so happy to finish work to get back home to be with him!

December 11, 2008

Excited was a complete understatement for that morning. I was overjoyed! Our first Christmas together as husband and wife. I waited in bed patiently for my husband Chris to leave the house and go to work. Wonderfully, I had the day off from work and I planned to use that very day to purchase Christmas presents for my husband and family. Unfortunately, I never made it to the store like I had hoped as seizures decided to make a grand comeback into my life in a very permanent way. To read the FULL story click here: (In The Beginning)

At first, I had the misconception that something like this would cause my husband to want to leave or that I should be the one to do the leaving as I found myself pained with distress and confusion. However, I was quickly reminded just how much I was loved in that very moment and every single moment. That we would get through this together. Not alone. Abandoning someone when times are toughest is not the solution, not at anytime. It’s at that time you hold on even stronger than you ever have before.

We were informed that a seizure condition called epilepsy would be a part of my life from there on out. Which meant, it would be a part of our life together. Not alone.

My husband Chris and I have been married for over 6 years now. For over 6 years now, I’ve lived with epilepsy. I’ve had epilepsy just about as long as we have been married. At any point in time, he could have said “Enough. I’m finished.” Yet, he has stood by my side the entire time and vows to stand with me every step of the way. Through the good. Through the bad. Through it all.

If you’re a guy or girl of someone living with epilepsy and you’re on the fence right now with your special someone, I implore you to live a moment in the shoes of those living with epilepsy. Remember your love. Love doesn’t walk away when times are tough.  Love gives all it has for the one that sets your heart on fire. Remember your love.

If you’re a guy or girl living with epilepsy and you have a special someone who’s on the fence right now, I truly encourage you to have a heart-to-heart conversation and encourage them to live a moment in your shoes. Ask them to remember the love that you both share for one another. Remind yourself and know assuredly that true love will be there for you even in the toughest of times. True love supports you, honors you, and respects you. Remember your love.

We were just two twenty-somethings starting out, uncertain of where we were exactly headed but knew wherever it was, we were going together. Along came epilepsy and we still knew we were going together. Not even that could tear us apart. Love always wins.

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